WOWZERS!!!!!!!!!!

So I received some pics a few weeks ago of the stills of Trey Songz' video for his sexy hit "I Invented Sex". At the time, I thought the pics were nice, but wasn't super excited, I first heard this song months ago, featuring Drake and liked it then. Then today, he premiered the video and WOW!!!!!!



I had to wipe my brow. Twitter is completely abuzz with females near falling out, heart palpitations, shortness of breath and everything else under the sun. I have to admit, he got it right this time. He has a beautiful sista as his leading lady, not to mention, the chemistry is undeniable. The video may be a bit too "grown" to be shown during the day, which may cause some people to wish for those days of BET Uncut! Either way, good job Trey!

Michelle Obama Knows....

...how to land a GOOD MAN!


In the December issue of Glamour Magazine, Michelle Obama tells Katie Couric some great dating advice on how any woman can truly land a good man.


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Katie: Candice Jones from Memphis wanted to know how you landed such a good guy. Maybe he landed you, right? “Did you know that Mr. O was a great catch when you met him? What dating advice can you give a 26-year-old professional?”

M.O.: He was always special, you know? And not special, like, He’s gonna be important, he’s gonna be president. He was special in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people. Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? That’s the advice I would give to women: Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. Look at how the guy treats his mother and what he says about women. How he acts with children he doesn’t know. And, more important, how does he treat you? When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good. You should never feel less than. You should never doubt yourself. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole. And if you’re in that relationship and you’re dating, then my advice is, don’t get married.

WOW! See, this is why I love this woman. Not because she is the First Lady or even because she is from the southside of Chicago. It is because she is just real. You know the kind of person who can give it to you straight, no chaser. This sounds simple, but a lot of women do get caught up in CUTE! I will definitely take her advice under advisement.

Up, Up and Away in My Beautiful, My Beautiful Balloon!

So today, I am at lunch and I get several tweets talking about a six year-old boy in Colorado swept up in a homemade hot air balloon. I thought it was a joke. Then I saw the coverage. Literally on every station that calls itself cable news: CNN, FOXNews, MSNBC, etc., this story was running and the footage was being shown. Then more information came out.



The Heene family is an eccentric family that lives in Fort Collins, Colorado. The father is an amateur scientist and apparently the family is known to study extra terrestrial life, UFO's and chase harsh storms. They were featured on the show Wife Swap, and were dubbed as the alien family. Both times they were on the show, the new wives coming in mentioned the behavior of the children. There are three boys in the Henne family.

Well the Heene in question was named, Falcon, which spurned tons of jokes on Twitter. Cameras frantically followed this balloon as it sailed for two hours past their home in Fort Collins. When it landed in a field, authorities reported that no boy was found inside. So then the search on the ground went into full-fledged operation. Cameras showed police and what appeared to be FBI vehicles driving through the field near the home and where the balloon landed.

Not too long after that, the boy is found hiding in a box in the family's garage!

*****Moment of silence******

I would have gotten whooped from sun up til sun down. My family members would have taken turns. I would have gotten whooped until they were physically tired. I would have been grounded until I graduated from High School. I can't help but wonder the fate of little Falcon.

This is a parental fail. Kids get into everything. Why would anyone have a homemade hot air balloon. That's like when I wondered how the Columbine moms didn't know their sons were masterminding execution of their peers, and harboring sawed off shotguns in their rooms.

I am all for science and education in the home. But this just reeks of stupidity! And it further supports the notion that cable news isn't really news, just informed gossip.

The Letterman Scandal!

David Letterman revealed last night that he was the victim of a $2 million dollar extortion due to his affair with a female employee. Apparently through the years he's had a few dealings with some of his female employees, and one of them, has a boyfriend who owes a lot of money in child support and debt payments, so he thought of extorting David Letterman. It didn't work, but Letterman had to reveal a very private matter to the public. Check out The Young Turks take on this scandal.



I agree with both Cenk and Ana - Letterman didn't have to tell anyone or apologize to anyone but his wife, who was his girlfriend at the time all of this occurred. I happen to like Letterman and watch his show and had wondered how no scandal such as this had ever popped up considering how long he has been in the television show business. Well here it is, and for some reason it doesn't hold the same water cooler gossip brio that I may have once thought it would. Hopefully he and his wife can get past this situation and move on with their lives.

This does support my motto: "Never get involved intimately with people you work with."

Olympic FAIL!

So by now everyone knows that the 2016 Olympics are going to be in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. That's right folks, Chicago, nor any other city in America will be hosting the 2016 Olympic games. We, chicagoans have been inundated with Olympic fever all year. The signs were posted on the streets, on buses, billboards and it was the constant talk around town. From day one, however, there were mixed feelings.

2009 has been quite the tumultuous year for the city of Chicago. We started the year celebrating the presidency and inauguration of Barack Obama. We went into the Spring dealing with the city streets being in the worst condition ever due to a harsh winter. Potholes and manholes were found everywhere once the snow and salt cleared. Then we were met with headlines regarding the loss of city and county jobs due to the economy. If that wasn't bad enough, the whole Rod Blagojevich senate seat-selling scandal was the talk nationally. Before we could catch our breath from political scandal the city sales tax went up, summer came and so did a rise in violence among teens. Several kids were murdered this summer which sparked national interest and an almost weekly investigation on CNN. Yet, through it all, every time you saw the mayor, he was talking about how great the city is and the Olympics.

This soured a lot of people here whose rising concerns for our safety and city costs marred support for the Olympics. Then in a zippy and unexpected twist. Sitting governor Pat Quinn decided to tax candy and liquor! The cost of living in Chicago has risen dramatically! A trip to Walgreens will lend receipts with at least three different sales tax codes, with some items being taxed at 12.25%! Then over the past three weeks, the Olympic push reached catastrophic levels, with talks of the First Lady, Oprah, Governor Quinn, Scottie Pippen and David Robinson all supporting the Chicago bid. Despite the tragedy at Fenger last week, the banners were hung, the big screen at Daley plaza reared its face and gates went up to prepare for an alleged Olympic celebration.

People lined up in Daley plaza at seven o'clock to get free "Chicago 2016" tee shirts. The media covered the area, sports stars showed up and waited anxiously for the announcement from the International Olympic Committee. Ironically, Chicago was voted out in the first round. There was news of tears and tangible disappointment. I can't say that I share in that feeling. The U.S. has bigger fish to fry than the Olympic games. Maybe we will be ready to host again, when we aren't practically at the bottom in education. Maybe we'll be ready when we aren't embroiled in a war. Maybe we'll be ready when our kids are safe, and families become important again in this county. Maybe we'll be ready when we finally get a public option in our health care industry. But right now, we aren't which is why we didn't get the bid. This was a reminder that the United States has a lot of growing to do, even on the International stage. I would love to see money and excitement being generated like that for education, poverty, jobs and children. Then, maybe we'll be worthy of hosting the Olympic games.

Self Destruction!

"Took a brother's life with a knife as his wife
Cried cause he died a trifling death
When he left his very last breath
Was I slept so watch your step
Back in the sixties our brothers and sisters were hanged
How could you gang-bang?
I never ever ran from the Ku Klux Klan
and I shouldn't have to run from a black man
cause that's
Self-Destruction, ya headed for Self-Destruction"


So here we are a week after a 16 year-old Chicago teen was caught on film being beaten to death by his peers, and yet there is more news of more violence. Two days ago a teen was found beaten badly in Edgewater, a north side neighborhood. And this evening, news flooded Twitter that Kandi Burruss from the Real Housewives of Atlanta, her fiance who was shown on the show, AJ was beaten and murdered in a club in Atlanta called Bodytap.

What the hell is going on?

Why are black people determined to kill each other off one by one?

Where is all of this anger coming from?

Personally, I couldn't watch the entire video of the Fenger High School teen, Derrion Albert because he died on there. I was personally offended that mainstream media thought it was okay to keep playing the video every hour on the hour. Then it hit me, this sensationalism of violence, be it real or fake, makes a lot of young blacks think that violence makes you a moviestar! Well guess what, this is NOT a movie! This is real life, real families, real emotions and real losses! There is absolutely no reason for a bunch of high school kids to beat anyone to death. Truthfully, there is no reason for an adult to do that either. AJ, as we all learned from the show has six kids! Now all of these kids have to live without a father due to senseless violence.

I live a very meager life. I go out from time to time, but I don't make it my business to spend every week/weekend in the clubs. I kicked it hard in my early 20's and got bored with that life very quickly. Yet, I know parents who go out more than I do. I always find that fascinating. I just don't find that life appealing. While I don't consider myself a homebody, my interests aren't necessarily in the streets. I would rather go to the movies, a museum, a wine tasting, bowling, a comedy club, etc. Crowded clubs with that 18+ crowd is almost always a recipe for disaster. Especially today when these youth seem to have absolutely no regard for human life. So here Kandi's fiance' is in a club, gets into an altercation and never lives to talk about it. I just don't understand the logistics of that. I don't understand why those kids were fighting with boards and rails by Fenger. I had too many things to do in high school. Shouldn't they? A few years back, one fateful night I chose not to go out and before dawn several people died after being trampled in a club called E2.

Life is too short to spend it angry, walking around carrying evil within us. God didn't allow us to walk the earth only to end someone's life senselessly or to do nothing with our own lives. We all have a purpose, and I just believe that purpose is not centered around violence! I pray for the families and friends of the victims, and I really pray that people learn to let some things go - it's just not that serious!

My Summer Blog Random List

Okay so that title was a bit non-creative, but it's 12:48 am and that's good enough for me.
So, it was like 70 degrees today, which for a summer/fall person such as myself was okay, but since I was born in this month, I tend to like summer.
This week at work was a bit eventful, you know the usual corporate drama.
As I get older, I realize that you have less friends, not because you're losing friends, but rather because you realize some friends are really acquaintances.
My cats are the bomb! I watch them sleep peacefully without a care in the world and I envy that kind of carefree-ness (yeah I know that's not a word).
I have also realized that I liked the Internet better before all of these social networking sites. Anonymity is where it's at.
I love anonymity, I think that's why I prefer working behind the scenes, no need for the limelight here.
Of course, that leads me to the fact that it's been a decade since I've sang in front of an audience. I used to LOVE singing!
Creative outlets are so important when you have to use so much time and energy on work.
I really need to get my act together and go back to law school.
I listened to "Lougin" by LL Cool J and Total - I love the part in the very beginning when Kesha says, "Mmmm, go head daddy!"
Does that make me a freak? LOL!
I know some people in my past would scream out YES, whatever!
Why is there someone begging on like EVERY corner in downtown Chicago? I love to give, but damn, we are in a recession.
I don't like tv anymore. Too many reality shows, too much coonery, and I realize that my television provides background noise for other activities.
I constantly think about the future...like all the time.
I even think about my future children. How scary is that? I am seriously trying to discipline myself and make necessary lifestyle changes so that when I have kids, I won't pass on bad habits. (Uhh, Mary, how about you get a man first)
My grandmother called me smart and beautiful today, and it brought tears to my eyes.
It's so nice to be genuinely complimented.
I am an incredible woman, whoever I marry will be lucky and blessed indeed. I hope that doesn't sound vain, but it's true.
I miss talking on the phone all night, I did that with my ex.
I wish I could find my putting iron (hope I'm saying that right), I have a putting set and I miss playing with it.
FACT#: I used to have the biggest crush on Grant Hill. I had his gym shoes, posters, book - everything.
I love argyle.
I also love plaid.
Yes, I'm a geek.
I love the line in Little Brother's "The Yo-Yo" remix when Phonte says, "Man, shit, I'm bout to kick some Trick Daddy next poetry night, like my black queeeenn, don't no nann nigaa!"
I listen to music EV-ER-Y-DAY! (Like Dre in Brown Sugar)
I probably listen to hip-hop 55% of the time.
And no, that doesn't include Soulja Boy or Gucci Mane or any of the myriad other minstrel show rappers.
I also listen to R&B (old-school), classical, alternative, rock, gospel and jazz.
Yeah, I be that eclectic!
Okay, so that was corny, but it is true.
I have these weird dreams about my old house. Funny how I couldn't wait to get out that bish, and it pops up in my subconscious.
I can't buy ground beef from the store. Haven't done that since...ever!
I don't like Milk, but I love some cereal, so I freeze skim milk.
God, help my future husband, he is going to be like WTF at some of my habits.
I adore Bad Habits by Maxwell, what a sexy song.
I have at least four books that are unfinished. I wish I had the time to just write.
I need to take up piano again, you know get my Alicia Keys on...
I daydream at least 30% of each day.
I hear songs all of the time, sometimes before they hit the radio/Internet. Been that way since I was a child - I know, weird right?
I heard "Fallen" by Alicia Keys at least a year before her album dropped.
Makes me wonder if I should have taken a music route.
CONFESSION#: I got my toes sucked outside of Secrets nightclub (LOL, shout out to Dee).
I would explain that confession above, but it's kind of a long story.
I found out I love Moscato this summer.
"Lay your head on my pillow, if you can be yourself. No one has to know what you were feeling, no one but me and you." - Alicia Keys Diary
I am on an A Keys hit tonight.
I want to get tickets to see Maxwell, Common and Chrisette Michelle, but my bourgeois arse wants like front row, or at least really great floor level seats.
When I went to Jamaica I was a ROCKSTAR! It was lovely.